21 Things You Shouldn't Feel Guilty About
AUG. 19, 2013
1. Moving to a new city for a job prospect that you really want to
pursue, even if that means you’re going to have to leave a lot behind (and you
might encounter the occasional “You think you’re too good for us?”).
2. Deleting people off of Facebook who
are constantly spouting off political or social stuff that makes you extremely
upset, or feel personally attacked.
3. Defending your positions against
something that someone said on social media, even if people will tell you that
it’s “not worth it” to get into a debate on the internet.
4. Spending what others might perceive
to be “a lot” of money on something that you’ve been working hard and saving up
for.
5. Leaving your job to work one that
makes you happy. Just because not everyone can find a job right now does not
mean that you are obligated to stay in one you hate.
6. Refusing to do unpaid internships if
you cannot afford to do them, and accepting the repercussions that may have on
your professional prospects.
7. Not calling someone back who has
been trying over and over again to pursue a relationship and has just refused
to get the point that you are not interested.
8. Telling someone off (harshly, if
needed) who catcalls you in the street.
9. Someone that you care about doing
things that hurt themselves, despite your efforts to help them and show them
that you love them. Imagining that it’s your fault isn’t going to magically
make them better, it will only ensure that both of you suffer.
10. Having a happy childhood with
steady financial resources. Not everyone will have it, and you should be aware
of that, but aimless guilt will do nothing. The only good you can do is work on
opening more doors for the people who didn’t have such good fortune.
11. Feeling good about your body, and
not feeling any desire to change the way it looks. It doesn’t meant that you’re
narcissistic, it just means that you’ve managed to beat the system that depends
financially on you not being satisfied with your appearance.
12. Deciding that you do want to make a
change, and lose weight, or tone, or get some kind of surgery to fix something
that you perceive as wrong. There is nothing shallow about wanting to feel
better, and it’s no one’s business wht you can or cannot improve.
13. Having a healthy, fruitful
relationship that leaves you feeling fulfilled and wanting to settle down at a
time when other people may feel it is too soon.
14. Deciding that you don’t want to
settle down with someone, even if you’ve been together for a long time and it
would “make sense” to stay together.
15. Not giving a good god damn about
fashion or trends or knowing different designers, and just wearing the things
that make you feel good and which you believe look good on you.
16. Listening to music that everyone
else makes fun of, or assumes you listen to “ironically” (as if that isn’t the
most depressing concept in the whole wide world).
17. Eating some junk food that you were
craving. (Don’t listen to those haters who ask if you if you’re “really going
to eat that,” they are just petty and jealous of your luxurious jalapeño
poppers.)
18. Deciding that you don’t want to
drink, either for one night out or for the foreseeable future, because it isn’t
right for you for whatever reason. Don’t let people pressure you into feeling
like that makes you a bad or lame person.
19. Deciding you just wanna get white
girl wasted and party all night, and shamelessly ordering Long Islands from 8
PM on.
20. Staying home from an event because
you were really sick and needed to take care of yourself. Even if a thousand
people text you about “COME ON DON’T BE A PUSSY WHO CARES ABOUT MONO,” don’t
allow that to force you into going to the party anyway and infecting everyone
with your quarantine-needing germs.
21. Cutting someone out of your life
who was abusive, even if everyone else thought they were just “such a nice
person,” because they never acted that way to them personally. You understand
that someone can be abusive andalso great in their community, or to
their family, or to their other friends. And your mental health or physical
safety is infinitely more important than the confusion of the people who didn’t
understand the dynamics of the situation.
