Ethical Sex Guidelines

Ethical sex—a short guideline in 2014

1.        Consent. Both partners (or more partners) must come to having sex of their own free will, without pressure, alcohol, or domination from a form of power of currency. It must be from the sexual goodness, lust, desire, thirst, needs, love, excitement all their own.

2.       Communication. All persons need to communicate that the sexual encounter is happening, taking place, and it is of their own choice and desire, from their own freedom. Neglect is not an option. The sexual experience needs to be open and understood between the sexual partners, their significant others, and the sexual others. All partners need to seek “premiso” (permission, approval, check-in) first with their sexual-significant other. This avoids drama and ill will poisoning the sex.

3.       Self-Realness. All persons in sexual act need to communicate any restrictions, fears, standards, and health. This means disclosing what you do not want to do, what you do want to do, what is okay, what is not okay, and what, if any, STI one may or does have. Disclosing infection status is very important for trust, and allows all players to make their own choices.

4.       Risk Reduction & Safety. All sex should NOT be done with recklessness. All sex has a certain amount of risk medically, emotionally, socially, physically, mentally, economically, and spiritually. Using sexual protective tools (condoms, IUD, PrEP etc) is important and should always be used. However, to reduce risk, if protective tools are not used, that choice must be made mutually and of truth, trust, understanding, and with foresight of consequences. 

so I dance

I feel empty, so I dance to fill the void. 
I am scared, so I dance to prepare for war. 
I feel sexy, so I dance to bring on the kisses. 
I am confused, so I dance to channel clarity.

art is that of living

“I like living, breathing better than working...my art is that of living. Each second, each breath is a work which is inscribed nowhere, which is neither visual nor cerebral, it's a sort of constant euphoria.”

― Marcel Duchamp

body

The Body is a Catalytic Machine for Experimentation.

It must be used, explored, and researched.

We are only now beginning to understand its power to create medicines, social change, art, expression, emotions, health, earth, law, politics, and life.

I am an experiential artist, in the process of researching the flesh bound body. An explorer of corporeal topography.

#tears

"Fight for every inch with everything you have. Turn your rage, sadness, and loneliness into blood, sweat, and tears. Get the result. That's all that matters. To let your progress stagnate out of laziness to betray yourself. 
I now feel this in my bones, and I will never betray myself with my laziness again."

--Patrick Hart

mourning

I am still in love with a memory. 
I am in love with an illusion of the past. 
Its destruction is impossible, it is a part of me. 
I mourn its death, it miss its comfort and cuddles.
To let go, to lose it, is to find peace. 
To hold it tightly, 
is to obsess 
be addicted to a thing already gone--wasting myself away on nothing...
what is this loss I feel?
what is this misery?

Ten Rules

Rule 1: Find a place you trust and then try trusting it for a while. 

Rule 2: General Duties of a Learner: Pull everything out of your leaders, and pull everything out of your peers.

Rule 3: General Duties of a Leader: Pull everything out of your learners. 

Rule 4: Consider Everything an Experiment.

Rule 5: Be Self-Disciplined. This means finding someone wise or smart and choosing to follow them. To be disciplined is to follow in a good way. To be self-disciplined is to follow in a better way. 

Rule 6: Nothing is a Mistake. There is no win and no fail. There is only make! 

Rule 7: THE ONLY RULE IS WORK. If you work it will lead to something. It's the people who do all of the work all the time who eventually catch on to things.

Rule 8: Don't try to create and analyze at the same time. They are different processes. 

Rule 9: Be Happy whenever you can manage it. Enjoy yourself: it's lighter than you think. Find the joy in everything, pull the joy out of everything. 

Rule 10: "we're breaking all of the rules. Even our own rules. And how do we do that? By leaving plenty of room for X-quantities" --John Cage


Hints:
always be around. come or go to everything. always go to classes. read anything you can get your hands on. look at movie carefully, often. save everything--it might come in handy later. 

friendships

a deep dark unconditional love made of light, 

for art, dance, expression, creativity.

a deep dark glitter takes flight,

for love, poison, pain, pleasure.

Good Evil Peace

In my meditation, I have discovered that both Evil and Good forces want peace. I have discovered that both Good and Evil forces are not that different in their wants, desires, and spirit. What makes them different are their actions, intentions, morals, ethics, remorse and empathy.

Evil is destructive: self-destructive and environmentally destructive—it will stop at nothing to get peace, pleasure, safety, of preservation of its self, wants, goals, and needs. Evil will kill, destroy, lust, and loathe. And, in the end, it will have complete corrupt power and control, providing it peace of mind, and ease to attain all that it requests and loves. But, that love is imperfect—due to neglect, lack of commitment, carelessness, and destruction of all trust and respect for the self, and the world. Good, on the other hand, wants peace, but has the will to attain it though a moral and fair, empathetic path of actions. Good looks towards process and struggle, resistance, and perseverance to attain all it needs and loves. Good creates solutions around and with obstacles of life; it is self-creative and environmentally sustainable; good is creative.

For me, this is really important to think about, because I often get lost in my journey of life—and I need to have a way to find my path.

There is so much good and evil in the world—and what I did find is that they are not that different, and are easily mistaken for each other. Also, both good and evil exist in everything. This is the natural order of things. And, most importantly, both evil and good want peace.

But, for clairvoyance, I look to an action’s vision of peace, and path towards peace, and I ask: is it creative, or is it destructive… And, I know if I’m entering in Evil or Good.